My thoughts on world-building

•August 15, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Today on Chicks & Dicks, I’m talking about what you can do to make your world(-building) go ’round for me. In the simplest terms, it’s all about the WHY.

Please check it out. =)

Chicks & Dicks July post

•July 20, 2012 • Leave a Comment

July is Abuse Awareness month over at Chicks & Dicks. I chose to share my first volunteer experience at an abuse shelter from when I was in college.

What can I contribute to ‘gay pride’?

•June 20, 2012 • Leave a Comment

This month is ‘Living Out and Proud’ month on Chicks & Dicks. Today I’m musing on exactly what I have to contribute to Pride when I don’t fall ‘under’ the rainbow, I watch over it. =)

Calvin and Hobbes on creative inspiration

•June 8, 2012 • 1 Comment

Calvin on Writing Creativity

Hobbes: Do you have an idea for your story yet?
Calvin: No, I’m waiting for inspiration.
Calvin: You can’t just turn on creativity like a faucet. You have to be in the right mood.
Hobbes: What mood is that?
Calvin: Last-minute panic.

Just try to tell me any of my writer friends haven’t lived this. I won’t believe you. =)

Chicks N’ Dicks guest spot

•May 23, 2012 • Leave a Comment

Chicks N’ Dicks have asked me to do a regularly monthly piece for them, the first of which is posted today. This month’s theme is: Men In Uniform
The Reason We Adore Men in Uniform

And if you missed the first post I did for CND on what I want to see written and be able to read within the M/M genre, here’s the link to it:
Real Stories, Real Romance, Real Soon

New Free Short: A Competitive Edge

•May 22, 2012 • 1 Comment

The GoodReads M/M Romance group is holding another writing event, and today my new short story is posted for consumption. If you’re part of the group, you can read it here:
http://www.goodreads.com/topic/show/882628-adara-o-hare-a-competitive-edge-5-22

I’ll get my stories posted on this site a bit later.

I’m a little nervous about the reception to this one because I like it so much more than the last one. (I like Chasing the Prick, but it felt too flat to me. I’ll re-work it someday.) I’m hoping this one doesn’t feel as flat to others.

I hope you enjoy it, Sue! =)

In the light of day

•April 2, 2012 • 2 Comments

In the light of the next day, I’m not the mess I was yesterday. I know the cycle pretty well. Even had I not posted this yesterday, I would probably feel somewhat better today because I can only beat myself up for so long before I have to get on with life. And I learned a few years back not to beat myself up too much. (Maybe I’ll share that story another day.)

One thing I’ve realized is that I need to examine the huge sense of guilt I (still) have and understand it. That will help me in the future.

I do know that the guilt stems from the fact that I do actually value the acquaintanceship (if not friendship) of those people that I thought might feel hurt by what I had to say. And I don’t want to lose it.

I don’t consider it pathetic that I put so much value–give so much of myself–to people I’ve never even met in person, either. There are people who believe that the relationships you forge online are not real and you shouldn’t invest yourself in them. While yes, there are those who may burn you for doing so and so a measure of caution is always warranted, I’m just not one of those people who can keep that in reserve.

There are people who will try to say that you should go out and find “IRL” friends instead of “wasting your time online.” Those people don’t understand that for some others, the time they spend online is more of the real them than they can put forth in person. (FWIW, I do not consider myself that way, but I know those people exist. I’ve met them in person too.) Those people don’t understand that it’s not a waste of time to connect to someone via a medium where the emotional is required to come before the physical understanding, attachment, or attraction. Those people don’t understand that “IRL” doesn’t always mean things will work out and “online” doesn’t always mean they won’t just because you’re not in the same physical location.

Having and valuing online friends over or in addition to real ones does not mean someone is pathetic and cannot handle a “real relationship”. It IS a real relationship. It’s just different.

So, I think that’s where the sense of guilt comes from. These people matter to me even though, in truth, I barely know them. Their opinion matters. Hence the need to hear them say “it’s okay. You still matter too.”

Maybe more on this later. I’ve got to get to work.
(Comments are moderated unless I’ve approved you to post a comment already. I won’t be able to approve comments while at work today, so some of them may not show up until later tonight.)

 
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